Depending on your elderly family member’s situation, you may feel like it’s really hard to stay positive. But not adopting a positive attitude as often as you can takes a toll on you, too. So, how can you put a little bit more of a positive spin on life as you know it?
Embrace Your Humanity
One of the things that can be incredibly frustrating about caregiving is that you’re human and you have human limitations. But that’s also the beautiful part of all of this. You’re going to have days that aren’t as great as other days, but it’s how you manage those situations that really matters. You’re also going to have really great days and those are the ones that you need to hold close and remember fondly.
Stop Trying to Do All the Things
Something else that you might be doing that holds you back is trying to be the one doing all the things. That’s not realistic for anyone, but especially not for a family caregiver. It’s going to take a lot of pressure off of you to have some help with some of what you have going on. Elder care providers can handle a lot of the day-to-day tasks that bog down your schedule. They can also handle tasks that have become too difficult for your senior to handle on her own.
It Sounds Hokey, but You Can Choose Your Attitude
Permanently positive people like to point out that you can choose your attitude, and that might sound kind of hokey. The thing is, it’s true. If you make up your mind that you’re going to be miserable, that’s often what ends up happening. Choosing to find the positivity around you is going to help you to see more of it, even on bad days.
Stop Worrying about Perfect
Chasing perfection is really not going to help when it comes to positivity. If you can gradually lessen your dependence on trying to get things as perfect as possible, you’re going to find that your enjoyment levels for most things in life go up. Perfect isn’t attainable, so it’s okay to let it go for now. You can give yourself goals, but make them achievable.
Positivity is something that can serve you well as a caregiver. It’s not about being unrealistic. It’s about making sure that you’re embracing joy and light where and when you can.